Friday, 15 January 2021
Sometimes hope and joy comes in the weirdest ways.
I have told y’all before that Justin has struggled with poop training. He has struggled with constipation throughout his young life, and frequently his bowel movements are painful. It has made him - completely understandably - pretty apprehensive about the whole idea of pooping, much less climbing on a toilet to do it.
We have tried all sorts of ways to help support him. Books, movies, sticker charts, M&Ms, constant reassurance and feedback. We have really worked hard in the hopes that at some point, he would put poop in the potty.
A couple of weeks ago I decided to start moving his potty into his room at quiet time. I thought that in there, with the room closed, surrounded by his toys and books, he might be comfortable enough to try. He peed a couple of times, but mostly it was a bust.
Until a couple of days ago.
I put him to quiet time like normal, and about 30 minutes into it I hear a ruckus coming from his room. “I DID IT! I DID IT! I PUT POOPY IN THE POTTY!” He opened his door, pants around his ankles, with an enormous smile on his face. By that time, Barb had made it upstairs and we both went in to his room. Sure enough, there in his potty was a big, healthy poop.
We got him cleaned up, and he and I went to the bathroom to flush his work. We hugged him and told him we were so proud of him. He couldn’t stop smiling. “I did a great job,” he said. We reassured him he did.
And then y’all. He started crying. Tears of joy, tears of relief, tears of pride. His little body was just so overcome with emotion that he cried. It was so achingly wonderful.
Look. Hope and joy come in strange ways. They hide in challenging situations, and they live in disagreeable people. Hope and joy can sneak up on you.
My biggest joy this week - some of the most love and joy I have felt in a while - came in the form of a literal pile of shit this week.
Things have been so challenging the past 5 years. Especially the last year or so. We have faced so many challenges collectively, and I have overcome so much personally. It can be hard to find joy in all that surrounds us.
And it is there. It exists, it is real, and it is important. Finding beauty and joy right now may be the most important thing any of us can do. And it may require us to look in unusual places and at unconventional things.
Like a pile of shit.
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